Do you know what to eat, when to eat and how much to eat?
Do you feel your body’s needs?
Sometimes we stuff ourselves with potato chips, sugar or too many wheat products. (I am not an exception here :) And I would say that when this happens rarely it is kind of human.
But what about people who do this all the time, who cannot stop themselves and do not feel their body’s needs?
Clients who come to me with eating disorders report that they feel out of control, unable to handle this problem – be it binge eating, bulimia or anorexia.
And because it is so difficult for them to handle their eating behaviour, they feel ashamed, guilty and embarrassed that they find it impossible to change.
Low self-esteem and low self worth go hand in hand.
Eating disorders can start at a very young age. Some people describe it as a constant struggle that has been with them their whole life.
For others it starts at age 11 or 12 or later in puberty.
The underlying causes are very often deeply hidden difficult emotional experiences.
One way of dealing with these experiences is to numb out the difficult emotional memories by eating or not eating at all. Both reactions serve as protection against unwanted emotions.
When children feel out of control and deprived of something and can’t have what they need or want, they very often make a vow to themselves:
“I’ll never starve again” or “I’ll never eat again”.
Another way of dealing with the underlying causes is, yes you guessed right: tapping!
I have found that daily tapping, exercise and meditation are the best tools to change old patterns and behaviour that no longer serve us.
In order to help with the tapping, I have put together guidelines so that everyone concerned can start feeling differently about this problem.
1. You need to address the facts, for example:
Even though I stuff myself with sweets in the evening, I choose to accept, love and forgive myself.
2. You need to address your emotions, for example:
Even though I eat too many sweets in the evenings when I feel lonely, bored, angry, sad, etc., I choose to accept my feelings.
3. You need to address the consequences, for example:
Even though I feel guilty and ashamed when I stuff myself with so much sugar, I choose to relax right now.
4. You need to ask yourself when your eating behaviour went out of control the first time. In order to find core issues you could ask yourself:
When did I feel deprived and out of control as a child? And then tap on the issues that come up until you feel a release of the emotional charge around these situations. I recommend finding an EFT Practitioner to help you with the hidden stuffed away experiences!
5. You need to imagine yourself without the problem and tap on everything that comes up, for example:
Even though I would feel weak or vulnerable or panicky without the sweets in the evening, I choose to be open to a new way of behaving.
6. You need to ask yourself how you would like to feel or behave without the food problem and tap in the positive ideal goal, for example:
Even though I have had this eating behaviour for such a long time, I am open to the possibility to let it go and to feel fulfilled and safe without the sugar.
I hope this has helped!
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