Is it becoming more difficult for women to get pregnant?
Part II of III
2. The emotional level:
When I ask
women with the desire to have children to imagine being pregnant, or having a
child, they tell me the most varied feelings, fears and anxieties.
Negative
emotions act like an inner saboteur of the pregnancy. I have put together a
list of the feelings that I have heard most frequently over the years:
I fear
being
or staying alone with a child without support
gaining
weight
not
being able to handle change
that
life is not predictable any more
not
having time for myself any more
being
too old and that my sexual organs are not functioning well enough any more
being
too weak for a child
having
to fight all the time
being
totally stressed with a child
not
being practical or perfect enough
failing,
not being good enough
making
mistakes during and after the pregnancy
being
stuck at home and not able to see my friends any more, being excluded
being
at home, because I have worked with dedication and I merged in my job
not
being able to protect my child
giving
birth to a little monster that is very difficult
being
overwhelmed by a very demanding child
not
getting along with the child
letting
the child starve
the
death of the child after birth
that
the child could get unhappy
that
the child could get ill
that the child could be taken away
that
my negative feelings and thoughts could prevent a pregnancy
handling
my child the same way my parents handled me
experiencing
the same difficulties as my mother when she was pregnant with me
that
my child could have the same traumatic experiences as myself like abuse, rape, etc.
that
my partner may only take care of the child and neglect me
not
being number one, not being the queen any more
having
a girl when my partner wishes to have a boy and vice versa
burdening
the relationship with my partner: the child could come between us
not
being able to rely on my partner, being without emotionalsecurity
the
reactions and difficulties from the children who are already there
that
the same problems with my other children could be repeated
losing
the unborn child because of my previous miscarriages
being
punished because of my previous abortion
hospitals,
doctors and their messages
I feel
guilty
because
it has not worked out yet: “everyone except me can get pregnant”
because
of my previous abortion
I am angry
and
jealous when I see pregnant women or women with little children
at
my parents and refuse to give them a grandchild
Fear, anger
and guilt do influence our energy system a lot, and block the optimal
functioning of meridians and Chakras.
What can you do?
EFT and
Logosynthesis are wonderful tools to free yourself from anxieties and other
negative emotions and to silence the inner saboteur. You can assume that fears
and anxieties are issues of your past, which get projected on a pregnancy.
If
you need help with these issues, I would be glad to offer my support.